I don’t know how it happens but every so often in life I stray off the path and get a little lost. I lose the big picture and the priority of people who should mean the most. I basically lose my map on where to go from here.
Sure there are my own theories for these times of discombobulation but one has to ask, why? Am I running toward something or running away? What are my true fears in life; failing or being alone? Is there really something more to all this?
I guess I am just reaching for perspective and inspiration.
I sent this poem to a dear friend of mine. These immortal words were written by the ALS warrior, Jon Blais. I keep this poem in my wallet and read it whenever I need to center my thoughts.
“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living,
I want to know what you paid for.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are,
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
For your dreams,
For the adventure of being a live.
I want to know if you can live with failure,
Yours and mine,
And still shout at the edges of a lake, river or mountain,
Yes, I am a warrior.
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have,
I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair,
Warry and bruised to the bone,
To do what needs to be done for someone you love,
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself,
And truly like the company you keep
In the empty moments of your life
And remember me,
It never ceases to amaze me how people confuse kindness and love for weakness. I guess nice guys do finish last but I didn’t know we were racing. George, you said it best.
“What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other.”
You need to be with people who get you. To be able to accept someone through faults, imperfections and quirky little peccadilloes with no thoughts of selfish gains is what life should be about. It’s tough to put your honest self out there and minuscule imperfections weigh heavy on people you care about. That’s a great sign to pack the car and head for better abodes. Life is too short for that.
See? Life is short and every time you think it’s hard or dull remember, there are people who see it end every single second of the day. I saw this video the other day and it brought me right back to Bosnia and other war experiences I have had. These images change you and they should. Good people in your life understand that and are sensitive to it. These images should invoke passion about ending violence or at least touch something in you other that chalking it up to a buzz-kill. Be with those who know and care where you have been. RIP Neda.
I guess this post was a little more self absorbed than I wanted it to be. There are times I believe we all stray and need to realign in both body and mind. I do believe that happiness is a choice but man, it’s choice that hides in the most odd places. Judas Priest said you don’t have to be old to be wise. I believe that and strive for it each day. Even on days when I need a nudge from the Blazeman.
This is how I choose to live my life.
- Being alone doesn’t have to be lonely.
- True strength is hard to quantify. It is invisible physically but it shows when it counts and everyone will see it.
- Ask for a shoulder and don’t hold back on giving one.
- Honesty is never regrettable. It is when people love you for someone who you are not. Be you. God made you and last time I checked He was perfect… or something like that.
- Tell people you love them. And do it often.
- Don’t dwell on what should have been, concentrate on what can be.
- Apathy sucks. Be passionate because it inspires.
- Run like you are not planning a return trip. Always look ahead.
- Don’t use those around you for gain unless you can give it back to them.
- Compassion is why we are alive. Truly, it is the only reason we are breathing right this very minute. So don’t hold back on giving it.
- Complacency, rejection and even major hurts happen. Don’t let it harden you and don’t let it weaken you. This too shall pass.
- Never drink milk before or after an intense cardio session. They lied. It does a body no good.
- Hold out your hand if you need to. Someone will grab it. I believe in that.
- Smile at people.
- It is true that there are few people that have your best interest in mind. That’s no reason to be a dick.
- Never be ashamed of being you and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Just try to do better each day.
- Call your parents. And if you can not, pray to them. They love you no matter where they are.
- Admit to being wrong and never hold back an apology.
Ok, that was a preachy list. But I felt I needed to write that. Life is a series of choices. Those are mine. Love ya.
Beautifully written. I agree, life is short. I love the line in the poem “I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love” That struck me powerfully. And I agree with you about compassion, it really is why we are alive — that and possibly encouragement. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I really enjoyed reading.
Thanks Ben. You know, that line has stuck with me for a long time.
That and “I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and truly like the company you keep in times of emptiness and despair…” That hit me so hard.
Thanks for stopping by.
“Never drink milk before or after an intense cardio session. They lied. It does a body no good.”
I learned that the hard way, I tell you what.
Also- I like to smile at people who look miserable.
I like it when they stare at me like “what the fuck is she smiling about?”
and then they light up when they realize I am smliling at them.
And then they smile back.
You can’t smile and still be miserable.
That’s fucking science, man.
Smiles go so far and people need a little kindness in their lives. I’d smile back ‘atcha!
It’s hard find the words to say about a post that hits so close to home…
I wouldn’t be surprised if one day people like George Eliot were quoting you.
I am glad it did. Sometimes just writing it down makes all the difference.
Thanks for the compliment. 😉
What’s sad is that too many people are too proud to stop and realize these things.
Pride can hold you back from so much in life.
Excellent entry once again! I’ll admit, not only do I unreasonably dwell on the “what should have been,” the “what could happen?” also wrecks my mind.
“What should have been’s” are the worst. I always try and stay the course because in some way or another, I feel you are suppose to be where you are. That might not make sense.
Nice work, Will. Just when I start to think that no one has any imagination or soul anymore I read something like this and it does my old heart good, I tell ya.
I’m not sure which line I liked best but I think it’s “Never be ashamed of being you and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Just try to do better each day.” That sort of sums up my philosophy on life, right there,
Thank you Trish.
That is a good philosophy to have. Perfection is a state that no one can achieve. And if they could, would you want to be around them?
Did you figure out if you are running towards or running away? I must say… You seem to have it all figured out!
I don’t know Lacey. Hopefully toward…
I am so far from figuring it out. I just hope I get close.
thank you. i needed this just as much as you.
Thank you. I am glad I could share with you.
“Am I running toward something or running away? What are my true fears in life; failing or being alone? Is there really something more to all this?”
I am there right now.
Thank you for this post Will….
I hope it goes well for you. I am there too. Well, you just read it so you know. Positive thoughts coming your way.
Many of these spoke to me, but especially:
Complacency, rejection and even major hurts happen. Don’t let it harden you and don’t let it weaken you. This too shall pass.
I need to learn this and so does my husband. Seeing him continue to beat himself up over things that happened several years ago really hurts me.
Never be ashamed of being you and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Just try to do better each day.
I have struggled with this since I was a child. I think I’m starting to learn not to be so hard on myself, but I have my bad days.
Call your parents. And if you can not, pray to them. They love you no matter where they are.
I have a good relationship with my dad, but I hate talking to my mother and I only call/visit her maybe two or three times a year. I know that parents are important and all but going to her house and trying to talk to her upsets me for several reasons which I will not list here. I wish I was on good terms with my mom, but I just don’t know how to do it.
Funny thing, I wasn’t that close with my Mom either. Then she had cancer and tragic events forced us to grow closer. I just wish bad things don’t always have to force people together. We should do this long before.
I hope all goes well for you two.
Bravo, my friend. This is beautifully written..not only because it’s a collection of powerful text, but what you wrote is really what it’s all about, I think. There’s nothing better than having the ability to be able to understand your own faults, predilections and weaknesses. and not brow-beat yourself. You can do this because you can view these issues and how they fit (or don’t fit in the Big Picture). Perspective helps us take the first step to change what we can.
So yes, you’re completely wasting your time being around people who don’t “get” you. It’s OK to try everything within your power to accept someone else–in spite of them selves and damned if it isn’t also fine to accept the fact that someone doesn’t particularly want to to with you and accept what you offer. This inability connect is certainly not a character flaw (either yours and theirs), it’s just as unavoidable fact of life.
These are wise words, indeed William. I love that you wrote them. and this lovely, wized collection of words is probably among your best..
I have moved to a new blog. I am now “Miso Laurie Kendrick”.
The new link is http://misomanythings.wordpress.com
I miss you. Let’s try to reconnect on a more regular basis.
Hooray for you LK! Missed ya around her. I will be adding the blog here…right…now. Done.
Thank you for your words. Always so perfect and poetic.
It’s obvious from all the reader comments that EVERYONE has crap days, months or even years and we need to be reminded of the good in the world and in our lives. We don’t know what others are going through but we can be pretty certain that all of us have had experiences that can help us be more understanding of others and their attitudes.
Remember what I told you last night and believing in what you wrote. You’re not running away anymore and you’re going to be OK.
P.S. Eating a banana before an intense work out isn’t a great idea, either. Just ask my trainer… I puked on him.
That was a wonderful talk.
I was a trainer for a number of years and was barfed on a few times. I wish it was bananas though. Not yogurt and coffee.
I couldn’t agree more with all of this. I tell ya, this world is a better place because people like you are in it.
Thank brother. Same to you.
I need to practice what you preach :-). (And I would say this was the opposite of self-absorbed.)
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During gender, eh?
Well of course, Will…when else would getting erections or keeping erections be useful?
Perhaps checking to see if the BBQ grill was hot enough or seeing if a wire was live? I don’t know. I’ve been on a dry spell lately so that’s what I got.
Well Done! I Like it!